Coffee Chat and Friendship

I’ve been very busy lately, and after this morning’s presentation, I finally had a moment to catch my breath.

I recently took on a consulting project from a friend and have been working on that. Meanwhile, my parents are obviously very worried about my current situation. I went to a fortune teller again and unfortunately received bad news. On top of that, I feel like I’ve been betrayed by my best friends here—none of them have contacted me anymore. It’s as if I disappeared from their world, and no one seems to care.

I started meeting new people and inviting others for coffee chats. Still, I felt heartbroken—both from my friends and from what the fortune teller told me. I finally understand why people always say the best way to get over a relationship is to start a new one.

Yesterday, I had a chat with a girl who recently had a baby. She chose to have the baby in a specific year, even though she didn’t get married—which, as an Asian, feels quite unusual to me. Even though she’s raising the baby with her partner, she insists on remaining financially independent. She told me that her biggest regret was accepting company sponsorship, which caused her to miss a promotion opportunity. She’s always worried about losing her visa, and now she’s thinking of quitting her job to live life on her own terms. I just feel she’s so brave.

Her decision to have a baby wasn’t about being fully prepared; it was simply something she wanted to do at that moment, so she did it. Her baby is quiet and cute, and she doesn’t find it too difficult to be a mom. The way she handles things seems to make everything easier.

We often worry: Will I be a good parent? Do I have enough money to raise a child? But it’s not just about having a kid—nowadays, people are too worried about trying anything at all. Maybe things aren’t as difficult as we imagine. Once you start, everything might become smoother.

The weather has been really nice recently. Even though not everything is going well for me right now, I believe the situation will get better soon. Just stay positive and keep connecting with people I told myself.