Return to school life

After applying for my Europe visa, I visited my friend’s university to attend a community event. During the visa application process, I realised how much the fee had increased—six months ago, it was around £70, but now it’s over £100. The staff who was checking my application materials rejected my photo because my hair color had changed. and an Indian staff member sitting next to her intervened, saying it was fine and thanks to him! I saved £7 that I would have spent retaking the photo outside.

At the university, the community event was five women sharing their challenges and recent frustrations. While their conversations were engaging, I found it difficult to relate; their academic pursuits were complex, and their experiences felt distant from mine. One of them shared how a male classmate had been pressuring her to agree to his proposal, which she strongly disagreed. I felt it might be better for her to avoid evolving in this case, as arguing with someone who lacks logic or understanding doesn't make sense for me.

On my way to the university, I listened to a podcast discussing real relationship stories and soliciting opinions. One story, in particular, upset me—it was about a man cheating on his wife, staying with a third person, and yet refusing to divorce because he claimed to "love both." It made me wonder how someone could tolerate such disrespect. No matter how wealthy or handsome a person is, it’s hard to comprehend why someone would endure such a situation.

This morning, my friend shared her relationship dilemma. She met a seemingly perfect guy—handsome, with a good job—but discovered he followed numerous prostitutes on Instagram. When she confronted him, he deleted the accounts and assured her he only cared about her. Yet, she couldn't fully trust him and wondered if she had trust issues, even considering therapy. I assured her that she wasn’t the problem. If someone’s past behavior makes you uncomfortable, it’s reasonable to question their readiness for a serious relationship. Moving forward in a relationship requires honesty and the willingness to let go of actions that may hurt your partner.

I also reflected on how women often blame themselves in such situations, even when they’ve done nothing wrong. It’s important to prioritise self-respect and emotional well-being rather than forcing oneself into an uncomfortable relationship. A lifelong partnership should be a choice, not an obligation. Regardless of how "perfect" someone appears, staying true to yourself and your feelings is what truly matters.

Finally, despite the cold weather, I know I need to leave my cozy duvet and tackle the day. There’s always something to be done, even when reflection makes it tempting to linger indoors.